Divorcing With Children: Top Questions To Ask

Mar 26, 2024

When consulting a family law attorney, what questions should you be asking?

In our family law consultations, potential clients often ask us what questions they should be asking. We completely understand that, for most people, divorce and discussions about children's issues are completely new. To make this process a little easier, we have compiled a list of the most common questions we receive, as well as questions we recommend asking any attorney you consult with as you navigate a potential dissolution of marriage with children:


Decision-Making and Parenting Time Rights:

  • What will the decision-making arrangement be like?
  • How is parenting time determined?
  • What information is relevant to determining parenting time and decision-making responsibilities?


Financial Matters:

  • How will assets and debts be divided?
  • What is the process for determining child support and/or maintenance?
  • Are there tax implications related to divorce that I should be considering?


Impact on Children:

  • How will the divorce affect the well-being of the children?
  • Are there resources for supporting children through the emotional impact of divorce?
  • What tools are available if we are unable to reach agreements regarding custody of the children?


Legal Process:

  • What are the steps in the divorce process and how is it initiated?
  • How long does the divorce process typically take?
  • What legal representation is needed, and how do I find the right attorney?


Living Arrangements:

  • Where am I able to live during and after the divorce?
  • Is relocation with the children allowed?
  • How will the living arrangements impact the children's stability?


Communication and Co-Parenting:

  • What strategies can be used for effective communication with the ex-spouse?
  • How can co-parenting be successful?
  • What tools or resources are available for co-parenting?


Emotional and Mental Well-being:

  • How can parents cope with the emotional challenges of divorce?
  • Are there support groups or counseling services available?
  • What steps can be taken to prioritize mental health during and after divorce?


Educational and Healthcare Decisions Regarding Children:

  • How are decisions about the children's education and healthcare made?
  • What information must be shared between co-parents regarding these matters?


Rebuilding Life After Divorce:

  • What steps do I need to take to protect myself financially after my divorce?
  • Do I need to update my estate plan after divorce (Hint: YES, you do)?
  • How can parents maintain a healthy work-life balance?


Mediation and Alternative Dispute Resolution:

  • Is mediation an option for resolving disputes instead of litigation?
  • How does mediation work?


Stay tuned for blogs from our office as we respond to all of these important questions!

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